Monday, February 01, 2010


Since getting engaged, The Drummer and I have been subject to a lot of opinions. Most of them welcome; nearly all of them truly excited for us; but some, unfortunately were not. Some people felt the need to tell me I was making a mistake, rushing in to things, settling for what I had, butting in where they had no right to be making comment.

To those that have watched us grow together as a couple, our engagement came as no surprise. They can see what we know - that we are perfect together. We were made for each other - I am his Spare Rib -I was made, ultimately, to be The Drummer's Wife. That was a huge part of what has been ordained for me and for my life, so why would I want to delay that? Why would I not want to start fulfilling my Promise now for the rest of my life? Maybe some people don't feel that; some people aren't sure after a year, so for them, waiting is the right thing. I can speak only for myself in saying that I'm sure.

I'm also sure that I'm not settling. I settled for the last guy I "dated" and boy did that mess me up. I spent a vast amount of time worrying that I would have to "settle" for the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I worried that I would have to "settle" for the father of my children. I worried that nobody would ever want to "settle" for me. And Someone changed all that. I was given The Drummer to show me that I *am* worth something far more than I ever could think of myself. To show me that settling is stupid - The Drummer is so much more than I could have ever hoped for or dreamed of. Settling leads dangerously to complacency. With The Drummer, I am striving every day to stay worthy of the love he gives me.

We are the first to acknowledge that we would be nothing without our God. Without Him, we wouldn't have been at St Johns. Without Him, we wouldn't have done Mosaic. Without Him, we wouldn't be together. He is the reason we are who we are, together, and apart, and it is in front of Him that we are making our vows.

A chord of three strands isn't easily broken, no matter how hard anyone wants to try.

Love, etc.


LeLe said...

Well said, Friend. Well said. When God brings that special person into your life, you just know. Pieces fit together where they have not before with other people. MK and I only dated for 8 months when we got engaged and I'm sure people felt the same way about us. Fortunately, no one said anything to us about it and everyone was very supportive. I hope the nay-sayers can see how perfect you two are for each other and realize that you two are being joined together by God. How can that be wrong? *hugs from across the Pond*

lucythevaliant said...

No, there's no way that you are 'settling'. People who don't just Know, unequivocally, that they are with their soul mate? They just won't be able to comprehend that kind of certainty. I think it probably has to be experienced to be understood, that feeling of absolute certainty.

Lucky you to have found it!

Anonymous said...

My dear girl- your true friends don't need the clarification, and the ones who do won't have their minds changed that easily. Your blog should be a place to celebrate, it's the last place you should feel the need to provide a justification.

"Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”- 1 Corinthians 13: 6-7